It’s not every day a film stops you in your tracks and quietly asks, “What if someone had been there, just before everything fell apart?” That’s exactly the question The First Day of My Life posed to me — and trust me, I wasn’t prepared for how deeply it would echo.
Directed by Paolo Genovese — yes, the same mind behind Perfect Strangers — this 2023 Italian drama trades in tight dinner parties for something more abstract but just as emotionally potent. The film's setup is deceptively simple: a mysterious man intervenes in the lives of four strangers, each moments away from ending their lives, offering them a seven-day glimpse into what the world would look like without them. Intriguing, isn’t it?
Plot Overview:
Without giving too much away (I promised no spoilers), this is a story about regret, perception, and rediscovery. The characters — a former athlete, a motivational speaker, a police officer, and a teenage girl — are not the sort you'd expect to see circling the drain. Yet their stories reveal how pain can fester beneath even the most composed façades.

Director’s Vision:
Genovese crafts an ethereal space where time seems suspended, blending elements of magical realism with intimate, grounded storytelling. The city is drenched in twilight, the mood always teetering between melancholy and wonder. It feels almost theatre-like in its stillness, giving characters room to breathe, unravel, and rebuild. While the pacing is unhurried, the emotional weight carries you from scene to scene like an invisible tether.
Performances:
Gabriele Cristini (as the child), Toni Servillo (as the enigmatic “Man”), Valerio Mastandrea, Margherita Buy, and Sara Serraiocco form the emotional core. Servillo is effortlessly magnetic — as he often is — serving not as a saviour, but more of a philosophical guide, reminiscent of Clarence from It’s a Wonderful Life with a darker twist. Buy and Mastandrea deliver especially gut-wrenching performances, striking a delicate balance between brokenness and dignity.
Visuals & Sound:
Cinematographer Fabrizio Lucci plays with shadows and silhouettes to beautiful effect, cloaking Rome in a perpetual after-hours hue. The film’s quiet, almost minimalist score by Maurizio Filardo avoids tugging at heartstrings too obviously, instead letting the silences — and what’s unspoken — carry the emotional punch.

Themes & Symbolism:
There’s something almost meditative about the way The First Day of My Life explores the intersection of despair and perspective. What do we leave behind? Who would mourn us — and what would our absence look like? Genovese uses each character’s journey to challenge our assumptions about resilience, suggesting that sometimes, the smallest ripple can bring someone back from the brink.
Factual Details:
- IMDb Rating: 6.5/10
- Director: Paolo Genovese
- Writers: Paolo Genovese (based on his own novel), with screenplay contributions from him as well
- Key Cast: Toni Servillo, Margherita Buy, Valerio Mastandrea, Sara Serraiocco, Gabriele Cristini
- Production Budget: Not publicly disclosed
- Language: Italian (with English subtitles available)
Audience Reactions: USA vs. UK
In the UK, viewers have responded with quiet admiration, particularly praising the film’s introspective tone and moral questions — it’s the sort of film you might catch at an indie cinema during a late-night screening, followed by silent contemplation on the tube ride home. British audiences have compared it to After Life in tone, embracing its philosophical melancholy.
In contrast, American viewers have found the pacing a bit slow, though many appreciated its thoughtfulness. On forums like Reddit and Letterboxd, there’s a clear divide — some found it profound, others “too European” in its restraint. Still, Toni Servillo’s presence has helped draw cinephiles on both sides of the Atlantic.